As it takes two hands to clap, so it takes two to have conflict. Therefore, finally, I must accept that I am at least partly responsible for the conflict, whether intentionally, or otherwise. Introspection is required to check in which way I can change or adjust. Secondly, the fire of conflict is most easily put out with the coolness of love and respect. Respect means to remain focused on the good qualities of others. Thirdly we should never become trapped in negative emotions such as anger or depression. To speck or act based on such negative emotions is to consolidate these feelings and worsen the conflict. Again, it is astonishing to see how conflict arises because of lack of communication. Clear, honest and non-confrontational communication ahead of time resolves issues before they become issues. Relationship is a big problem today. Where ever there are judgements, expectations or suspicions’, wherever there is a hint of inferiority or superiority, relationships suffer. The conflict drags on. Let me develop that humility to take the first step towards peace. Reform the attitudes which prevent me from making peace.
Thought for reflection:
We cannot direct the wind but we definitely can adjust the sails.
By Bridget Menezes
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